These comments fit what I read years ago from a nun who advised exactly what Claire wrote. With humble curiosity probe the experiences that led to this belief.
I've been writing in my journal about this very thing after listening to the podcast today. Its been perplexing because we can't just ignore the gap. What I ended up with was something like Jerry Colonna writes about which is people seek love, safety, and belonging and their actions aim to find those three, especially when one or more is missing. Instead of hitting the issue at present head on, which only seems to bring further resistance and violence, what I'm drawn to at the moment is exploring what isn't giving safety for the other person. Often people find belonging in groups of similar views, but are those real? What did that belonging fill a hole of and what was previously missing? And of course love--which relates to the belonging as well. Another tough part though is how then do you foster those conversations to address these behind the issue questions, especially when the other side is violently opposed? I'll continue to turn to wonder there...
These comments fit what I read years ago from a nun who advised exactly what Claire wrote. With humble curiosity probe the experiences that led to this belief.
I've been writing in my journal about this very thing after listening to the podcast today. Its been perplexing because we can't just ignore the gap. What I ended up with was something like Jerry Colonna writes about which is people seek love, safety, and belonging and their actions aim to find those three, especially when one or more is missing. Instead of hitting the issue at present head on, which only seems to bring further resistance and violence, what I'm drawn to at the moment is exploring what isn't giving safety for the other person. Often people find belonging in groups of similar views, but are those real? What did that belonging fill a hole of and what was previously missing? And of course love--which relates to the belonging as well. Another tough part though is how then do you foster those conversations to address these behind the issue questions, especially when the other side is violently opposed? I'll continue to turn to wonder there...
I usually respond from curiosity. What experiences did this person have that would lead them to this conclusion?
Love what you have to say about not legitimizing harmful views and about what loving kindness looks like, Carrie.